I told Dan the other day that sometimes I feel like I suck as a mom. Not the kind of sucking where I don’t love my boys with every bit of my soul. And not the kind where I don’t strive to give them the best life possible. But, the kind of sucking where I struggle hard at taking both of them to run errands with me. Or to a birthday party. I always end up losing one of their shoes or forgetting diapers or wipes and at some point, something will get spilled or broken.
I see other moms with their kids in the grocery store or at a restaurant and they look so put together. And on social media? I mean, so many moms have their children dipped in magical glitter while eating homemade rainbow cupcakes with not a speck of food on their clothes. And for me, sometimes just taking them to the grocery store can be stressful and I can hardly navigate a cart and my children while actually getting everything on my list.
Now, I know I am being overly dramatic here. I know that I do the very best I can each day and I for sure have my strengths in this whole motherhood thing. But, man, if it’s just me and my boys for more than 8 hours at a time, I know that at some point, I’m giving in to something that I should totally be saying no in order to avoid a meltdown and I’m for sure turning on the TV.
It definitely doesn’t help that we are in a time where we are inundated with visuals of other people doing so many things with their kids and making it all seem so easy. Looking like they are having the time of their lives during that long car ride and not at all making a huge mess with the amazing craft they are doing!
Really, though, I think it’s so important to remind ourselves that we all have our different super powers as parents, just like we do with work and with who we are as people in general. My motherhood super powers certainly don’t involve taking the kids on bike rides and baking them cakes. But, I sure can nurture the hell out of my boys and play games and have a conversation with them like no other.
What is your superpower when it comes to parenting?