Setting This One Boundary Changed So Much For Me
Ever since I had Dre (my second son who is now 14 months), I started paying very close attention to when my stress level was going up, up, up.
I found myself becoming easily irritated and frustrated more and more often and I did not like it one bit.
It did not take me long to recognize that what was increasing my blood pressure the most was when I was trying to do two things at once. Being home with my kids AND trying to work at the same time was at the top of that list.
I stretched myself thin because I was a total people-pleaser and the guilt was heavy and the pressure I was putting on myself was unmanageable.
Does that sound familiar to you?
My background is in social work. I was a social worker and therapist for 12 years and helping people create boundaries was something I did on the daily. But, creating boundaries for myself? I was definitely struggling with practicing what I preached.
And it was a huge wake-up call that I wasn’t applying what I know can be life-changing to my own life.
Once I started to recognize the consistency of when I was freaking out, I knew I needed to create boundaries around my work time, personal time, and family time.
If I didn’t, I was going to keep suffering and my family and my business were definitely going to, as well.
Implementing just one boundary around when I will work made such a different for me and my family. It lessened my stress level and truly made me a better mom.
Without certain boundaries, we often end up over-giving, saying yes to things we don’t want to do, and feeling overworked and overtired.
If you can relate to feel this way, it might mean it’s time for you to set some of your own boundaries!
Here are a few tips for setting them:
2. Decide what you want to happen. Do you want to have a quiet and uninterrupted space to work in? Do you want more quality time with your partner and kids? Do you want more time to spend on your business?
3. Set some rules around each boundary. Make sure the rules you set are realistic and achievable. Once you know what you want to implement, make sure to communicate it to the people who need to know about it — make sure you are calm, kind, and direct. Sometimes it helps to have a friend or someone you trust to talk to when you are setting a boundary for a little extra support if needed!
4. Stick to it! What’s the point in setting a boundary if you aren’t going to follow through with it? Your friends, clients, and family will learn very quickly if this is something you will back down on. Not that people are trying to bring you down, but sometimes our clients and loved ones want access to us at all times! And why wouldn’t they when you are so great!! 🙂
Setting boundaries can be something that takes more than what I mentioned above, but with some guidance, setting them truly can make a world of difference. Boundaries (or lack thereof) can relate directly to our own self love and truly can improve our lives.
If you would like some help with this, one section of my course Busy as a Mother: The Work & Life Balance Bootcamp is designated to learning to create boundaries successfully.
Being in the bootcamp also means that you will be part of my private facebook group where you can bounce ideas off of other women and where you can have that extra support when you need it!
You’re invited to secure your spot on the waitlist for Busy As a Mother: The Balance Bootcamp HERE.
You will be one of the first to receive an exclusive invitation once the Bootcamp opens.